Very often lately I have felt stuck with lots to do and no way to do it. In three days, the convention I’ve been helping to plan will begin, and even though the rest of the convention chairs and I have done a lot to prepare, it never feels like enough. Despite the fact that I have the same workload as the other convention chairs, I feel much more stress than they do, and it’s affecting my day-to-day life. There is something about my way of thinking then, rather than the actual amount of work that I have to do, that is causing my stress.
I’ve been looking for a new mindset for a little while, but a breakthrough came the other day when my housemate Jackie came home. She put a couple boxes on the counter and talked about her professor bringing cookies to class. I wasn’t paying very much attention, and in my ignorance I assumed that the boxes she placed on the counter were full of cookies (this is not an uncommon occurrence in my house – we adopt a lot of food). A couple hours later I started poking around the counter looking for the cookie boxes. When I didn’t find them and asked after their location, Jackie said, “No, the boxes were something else. But we could make cookies!”
That’s my new mindset: I can always make cookies.
When it comes to administrative planning, I sometimes feel like I’ve hit a brick wall with new problems, but it doesn’t have to be that way. When the flight I’m trying to get for a guest gets booked for the wrong day, I can always call the airline and find out what my options are. When the job application I fill out online never gets a response, I can always find contact info for the company’s recruiters and introduce myself over the phone. When I come to an office to find it closed, I can always come back later. There is a solution to every problem, and even if it takes a little more effort or a little more money, I can find it and make the situation better. I don’t have to be stuck outside of locked doors, because there is always some way to unlock them.
And there can always be cookies.